Tuesday, February 9, 2010

"I'm not lesbian, homo or bisexual!"

Many will say "lesbian and gay" doesn't make sense, and it is true, as a lesbian is a homosexual ... Rather, this phrase I was told yesterday by a messenger on a longtime friend with whom I've a relative proximity ... Going against my suspicions turned out to show me yesterday that he is living with a "special friend" with whom she has a healthy, relaxed and sexual. Although I have stated unequivocally that it immediately afterwards, and has repeatedly said the phrase that serves as title to this post. Not explained to him that being a lesbian is a homosexual, but told him she would not have to worry about the label of their relationship and / or their "sexual identity", what it takes to be happy. At the same time, and coincidentally, saw the replacement of the "Amores" RTP in N, where Gabriela Moita and José Machado Vaz insisted on the idea that this is terrible to give names to all sorts of relationships, often making things more complicated to take. I fully agree, and one thing I am sure: the only truth is that we are all humans and that the purpose of each must be unique and simply the pursuit of happiness to make life have some sense!


G. Force and obviously you have my support!

:))

Monday, February 8, 2010

"I'M GAY !"... "I'm a lesbian!" ... Which the most well received by parents?!

The purpose of a book I read now, and that one other time talk in depth but I read a interesting thesis, and on which never had thought ... Who will be complicated to know about homosexuality of their children, to parents of a gay or parents of a lesbian? Many will say that the shock, orimpact will be the same, but the seen things are not well ...
Says in the book, the parents of a lesbians have more difficulty
return to work within the family ... Now and this why? Because, as we know, from new idea conceived by society is to see the woman as a person who will marry, have children and 'll take care of home leaving career background professional ... Now the men, the society in general expected to be a good boss family that thrive in career and family can provide economic stability to home ... From the moment when the daughter or son take his homosexuality, it is easy to deduce that all these preconceived ideas make no sense leaving Parents confused, disillusioned and many sometimes with a sense of guilt. But analyzing the most detail: in reality (and according to the book) when one man stands out as gay, although Parents abandon the dream of one day come have grandchildren, in fact may even thus, through a supposed success professional, a prominent position overcome the loss and mitigate the most emotions ...In the case of women, everything that the parents expected the family becomes a mirage, increasing the feeling of anger and rejection of parents towards their daughter. This feeling is even stronger his father, who believes that his daughter is indirectly to relinquish their figure (as husband), leading them to think that is itself being set aside ...

I think not to say that been studied for most cases, been the exceptions (which
hopefully will be the general case) confirm this rule ...

:)

Thursday, February 4, 2010

For these that many can't be assumed ...


In the past weekend I attended a wedding, as I mentioned, which by chance happened a scene that makes many gays don't have the courage to take ... I speak of if one of the guests, who (as some people know) is gay, and that for the ceremony was accompanied by a longtime friend ... I do not want to lie, and so I guess he is gay (which is what interests me for this post), and that in fact it was one of the inseparable friends of gay men (eheheh) who accompanied him with pleasure ... Well, the middle of lunch, one of her friends reminded them to ask for a kiss with a round of applause to such friends (which for the friend who asked, it did so only out of spite, knowing something, or just to fun) ... He was super embarrassed and uncomfortable, but there eventually gave xoxo to a friend ... In my opinion, these are supposed initiatives innocent (as well as close friends) who writes a gay "unarmed" to the point of being completely discouraged to take something before their (supposedly) close friends ... In other words society is pushing a boy to a reality that is not his, but in the eyes of most is the supposed reality of it ... A friend of mine, who was on my desk was quick to comment "friends? Yes yes ..." you have not even crossed his mind that he might be gay, even though it a couple of gay men in their own table! So do not go there ...

Saturday, January 30, 2010

DRILLING IN THE BLOG IV - Do you think a (couple) homosexual should be able to adopt a child?

More a survey by I completed, with a total of 101 ratings, based on the question "Do you think a (couple) homosexual be able to adopt a child?". The results of this survey let me obviously happy, where a clear majority to support possibility of adoption by of (couples) homosexual ...But good analysis is then results in detail:The most determined and who see any chance of the homosexuals can see any days to adopt children represent 10% of voters. Already other 15%are less drastic and voted a "no" showing so that in future the opinion may change ... There are still 28% who have doubts and open the hypothesis adopted by homosexuals would depend that some factors. Response winner of the poll is "Yes" which collects 47% of the vote. CONCLUSION: It's difficult to conclude more than 70% of people approve with or without restrictions adoption of children in Portugal by homosexuals. Not deny that it makes me happy and to believe that perhaps, unlike many think, the law may be changed more quickly
imaginable. In my opinion, if we focus on that really matters in this subject, namely the well-being physical and psychological development of children, I don't understand complicated any child yearns to have a home with all the facilities and well be possible. If there's a father, mother, two fathers, two mothers, an uncle, an aunt is in my see the side of this issue. There will surely gay that will not be able to adopt a child, but I hope that maybe there adoptive couples more than have these conditions, but still are privileged person in adoption procedures.

Friday, January 29, 2010

There's something in womans that much envy me...

... that's the fact that only they can pass through the unique experience of pregnancy and have a child. I mention this because this weekend was the wedding of two longtime friends, among many other guests, and the truth is that because of several couples they married a short time ago, the children are a constant in conversations ... Some pregnant, others to try and with some other less pleasant experiences. But it's nice seeing a new mother, speaking of his experience with a twinkle in his eye and one very special ... I just thought to myself "How I'd like to also be able to go through this experience." But he wanted to, who we "invented" that only women have that privilege and on that there is not even nothing to do. And by chance I'm at a stage where several friends go through these experience (some already future parents, others try to be our parents, other daddies and others in which things did not go very well), and that makes the conversations very interesting.. And even here we (society) try (often with good intention) poking your nose when asking for a baby without knowing sometimes what is really happening and that this simple question can cause enough embarrassment to the couple. I have said several times that on the day I came out as gay a few of the things that hurt me most was knowing that the dream of having a child would have to be put aside, at least as "normal" is designed as a baby. .. Many think that even so all is not lost, and this is true ... This weekend, the dormant desire of having a child has to be agreed, and the adoption was again a part of my daily thoughts .... We shall see! :)

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Grilfriends?!?! But... How was it possible?!

This was one of the doubts of many of my friends had when knew that I was gay... In fact, I always lived surrounded with woman, but were just friends, except some... Naturaly, I had girlfriends, and this raised the question "So, how you had girlfriends, if you're gay??!?!"... Right, I think that this happens because all of us (generally of the society) pushes us to womans, becoming the fact of haven't girlfriend reason to suspects or doubts. Now, as I always wanted to hide the fact that I'm gay, nothing better than trying to have a girlfriend... But it doesn't work, I dated with Cristina, with Sara and with Susana (a few hum...) and, in fact, the things doesn't worked and believe me that one of them was everything I would want for me... But nature doesn't forgives, and was having always something that was missing to complete the relationship. Actually I'm a big friend of all of they, and they accepted very well the fact that I'm gay, and, in some cases, it served to clarify some situations... And you ask: "And how was that relationship, it was one normal love and sex relationship?", and I answer that I think that would be much more love (or a strong feeling that I used to call love) than sex, even because in relation to sex, things never went very well...

"OFF THE RECORD" Comment - Crisis

Who has been reading my posts on my blog, sure that already noticed that I'm not a person of swallow injustices and that I alwayes try to give voice to my desires, to my anguishes... So, I think that the best place to express it is right here, even if this subject couldn't be relacionated with the theme of this blog... This first "Off the Record" comment is dedicated to the so known and alson with beards "portuguese crisis". She is always accompanied with her friend "Deficit", that haves a back very wide, and for that, he's alwayes responsible for the setbacks of his nephews, the portuguese politicians. I remembered and I felt will to write about this subject, after I've found that yesterday, on an Lisbon esplanade, while I was having lunch, that the two persons of the two around tables, were commenting (or regreting) the just announced tax increases... And to top it off, two ladies passed around me that were saying ventings that the politicians should steal money from the riches, and not to the poors... To over this sequence, when I just over to have lunch, I went to the kiosk close to the restaurant, e for my admiration, at the first page of a newspaper, Socrates retrated a bit on the announced measures, that withdrew some with some members of the parliament benefits, and that the "Caixa Geral de Depositos" (that in the first three months of this year improved 20% of the profits) is for the next two years isent of paying IRC (tax to the profits of the companies). Nothing am I think in 10 years here (maybe I'm being optimistic) the people that work has been year after year deceived and runaway ... And if there was doubt, it is almost unavoidable to this chaotic situation (which is what at least for now, as in other years past, would have us believe) that we are involved. And who pays for the irresponsibility of our leaders? They? Of course not ... I think we're a country where being a politician is becoming more attractive, and not because their responsibilities are more noble and the challenges are greater.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Spain, 4th country in the world with homosexual marriage and adoption allowed

Today with all the certainly marked in the gay's memory of Spain, and also to the rest of the world, after finally was approved this morning, on the parliament, the law modification that gives to homosexuals all the same rights as heterosexuals, in respect of the civil marriage and to the child adoption by gays.
While very close here, there's happening the steps in the changing way, very close to the tail of the world...
CONGRATULATIONS to all that want benefit of the approved law in Spain...
About the others, the fight continues...

Because the ignorant people exist...

I talked about this subject and I don't resign myself... Incidentally, today had a reader that left a comment, referring that I should be in another world, because when he told to his family, he was putted away, alone, and with his image totally dirty... I read also, in PortugalGay.pt that one student was supposedly humiliated and taken by his course classmates, after he assumed his sexual orientation... Really, hat make thinking... Me, fortunately hadn't to pass for none of this situations , but I take my precautions too... When I told to my family I don't knew what would be their reaction, but I searched to do that when I was already independent. This, beyond giving us strength, is also a "joker" that our family could use against us, and I say "joker", because to many parents think that place their son on the street would force him to leave homosexuality. About the telling to the class, there's some data remaining to understand the why of this "communication" and in what circumstances this happened... Unfortunately in this point, I also think that we should leave to the last alternative the act of tell our orientation to our classmates, we've the right of don't tell it...
Of course, when we're go to do it, we should wait all the possible reactions, because tell to our classmates isn't like tell to our friends. Our friends think in us and are faithful to us (the true friends of course!), the mates are too, but they can, at the first opportunity, for merely professional questions use the sexual orientation with the end of prejudice the mate...
I know that we already knew this, but I felt like, after read the stories, leave my testimony of total repudiation for any type of discrimination and to know (and I mean to "know": the moment, who, with any way, prepared for any unexpected reaction...) take to us and to the others our sexual orientation when this will be relevant and important to us. :))

If there were doubts, now there's not anymore...!

I mean, the manifestation against the homophobia that was realized this weekend in Viseu. Was nice to see on the TV Mr. Viseu's Mayor, saying that he won't admit that Viseu was known as the most Portuguese homophobic city, and came a old man almost drooling of from nerves screaming as one of the demonstrators of the manifestation. And to complete the scene, quickly a lady rush saying "he's right, yes indeed"... We know that this reactions exists in the whole country, but in Viseu there was happening truly lamentable situations, able to do a movie, searching to reject the homosexuals... What else we can say? This is our country, a little hidden, that only moves to support football teams, leaving what really matters to each other life to background. And, as the saying tells "In Rome, be a Roman", maybe there's our way: the people always being stupid and ignorant. This is the being way that the politicians are all happy! :-S

"Estimation Friends" (doubtful)...

I don't know if the words I'm going to say are true or false, but my experience and the years in that I've meeting very good people, and in all relationships, there's almost always an "estimation friend". I decided to call them like that, but I also could call them "doubtful friends" or other names, but the thing I really want is to refer is friends that cause disagreements in a relationship... That exists in my relationship, and I think that this happens in many other relationships... But what friends are they? I think they're that friends very close to only one member of the couple, where the other tends to see suspiciously. But, curiously that person is normally close to the couple, and although apparently all seems to be okay, in the reality the things are not so like that. The jealousy or the possible threat that we imagine in our head, never pass and always remains, and with the minimal oversight, we're back to charge against the "estimation friend". It will be like that?... To think... :)

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Arrábida here so close ...

Decided to go for a walk, visiting a site near but not yet met. Decided after us, we find on the net, do a tour in the region Arrábida ... I then what impressed me most and the least liked to see:

Strengths

We started the trip from Lisbon, was the first stop in Cape Espichel. A beautiful site, airy and with a phenomenal view over the coast. Already a Igrega of Ms. Cape is also very beautiful she is very well maintained .... Followed by the Castle of Sesimbra ... This offers us a fantastic view of the town of Sesimbra ... Then, with the barriguita hours to the heart of Serra da Arrábida, which stopped at the restaurant "Sea Bar". Good food with some slightly prices topping ... We then, and we were stopping at the Sierra where the view was simply one of which highlight the views of the beautiful beaches of the area (Portinho Arrábida, Figueirinhas ...) and the area of Convent Arrábida. The next house we visited was that of Setúbal, the only baroque castle of Portugal. The castle is really different from all others, but not found particularly nice. Gira was the view of Setúbal and Trojan .. Then for the last tour of the castle, the castle of Palmela. This is better care, and has a fantastic views, which some say make to see the landscape from the Serra de Sintra to Sines ... Frankly we can not confirm this because the landscape was somewhat cloudy. Just the ride to eat some pies from Azeitão in Azeitão it is clear!


WEAK POINTS

When we get to Cape Espichel, obviously the danger that any visitor corresponding to go there, next to huge cliffs ... Examples are two cars that are estatelados downstairs and realize that although it is difficult to get them from there I do not think anything positive ... Then, coming to the beautiful castle of Sesimbra, walking by its solid walls, which withstood many centuries but that we, as gentle and evolve we prefer down to our cars to come ... Arrábida, so beautiful, beautiful, green ... Suddenly, we have to move next to a huge factory in SECIL right in the middle of the mountain ... Another nice part of our ... Finally, already in the castle of Palmela, here we are faced with a pool that was built (it is known there by whom) and in the heart of the castle ... Imesurável our kindness, and then not even try to disguise the real attack on our heritage ... Of course, after a day trip to beautiful, unfortunately the terrible traffic queues to enter the capital Jao was not a surprise: (


See all the posts about trips HERE

Monday, August 17, 2009

INTERNET ... Who is the other side?

I have already discussed this topic several times here on the blog, and I do not play it again too ... This is because today I received a link via messenger, a known, that showed me a page where you are literally exposed a supposedly personal conversation taken known and widely used in Messenger. These conversations, which now can easily be stored in history may well become embarrassing or even harmful if we do not know what the real intention of those who is on the side of there. It is known that with the proliferation of chat conversations and instant applications, the risk to say or do certain things in the future can come to commit ourselves. This is an example of this, and I think that should motivate us to reflect on the matter. The link that I talk to who is more curious is:

http://www.viriatoweb.com/modules.php?name=Forums&file=viewtopic&t=9

:)

Mariza transparent ...

There is already for sale, the  work of our Mariza, which gave the name "Transparent" ... We got him and I tell you that our expectations were and high, but the girl was once again time to ... It is a delightful disc, where the violins added a new line to your music ... Music 7 of the album, giving it the name, even mix of percussion instruments that give a very transparent tone to the music ... Have the song "Fado Portuguese of us" is an anthem to our traditions, to our luck! And No. 12? Well .. Just listening to it! :)
Do not see the transparency of this new album, will not regret!

Faithful or unfaithful?

It is impossible to remain indifferent to the new kind of entertainment programs that were begun, first with TVI in the "Faithful or unfaithful" every Friday and then the SIC program with the "Juras de Amor", also on Friday, but a time (more) noble. But good, speaking of those programs, which can be said is that both aim to test how far will the love of our faces half the request of a member of the couple. TVI in the program will begin around 11 hours of the night, with red ball ... It forged a situation where normally the job search being tested seized this opportunity to create a very daring interview. The TVI shows (only) those cases successfully, and attempts (through the Brazilian presenter), creating scenes truly deplorable, bad taste and sometimes violent. I cao in relation to this, serious doubts that the scenes are true, because knowing that a TV needs permission to publish images of a person, I do not think that anyone in their right mind leaving out the scenes of seduction, unless have put a lot of money in history. Already the SIC TV program , "Juras de Amor" is less perverse and better prepared ... Although forged a situation that could lead to expensive half tested the slide, are not created scenes of "invitation to bed" and in the TVI, and sometimes even comical situations. Until now the TV's  has shown cases with happy ending ... 
CONCLUSION: We do not serve for more such programs, I think we can at least create a doubt in our mind is what we as true (the guy half of our loyalty, trust, love ...) may not actually be so certain ... But is the advice that anyone can (and should) go by their own tests of loyalty at home and not need much imagination.

ZOOM IN II :: The anus!


And here is the second post that you want to take a "photograph" the something that I think deserve or be interesting ... This time, the anus (butt, ass or whatever you want to call), is the focus of this post ... Why the anus? Well, as you know, the anal sex is a type of practice implicit in a homosexual relationship, although it is practical for homosexual and heterosexual couples. But not all feel as we can through the anus, have some kind of pleasure, which is the channel output of excrement ... Well, I hope to read this post that doubt is removed!

Li, I did a search on the Internet, the following sentence: "Men also feel pleasure and not necessarily gay anal." This sentence raises several questions, which will, as in the previous post (this series) trying to divide by subject ...
CONSTITUTION It is anus and the hole, the outer edge of the rectum. This is circumscribed by a circular muscle (anal sphincter). The anal canal connects the anus to the colon (large intestine) which provides the penetration. Figure ilucidar can describe what I have.


The anal sex anal sex can provide moments of real pleasure, both the man and the woman. It is perhaps one of the most feared practices due to fear of pain. There are, as I said, ways to reduce or completely eliminate the pain and enjoy the pleasure that this type of penetration provides. It is known that man (especially the straight) is very embarrassed to take that would like to try, or if they have partners who are providing this kind of pleasure through the introduction of the finger in the anus. There are many positions for anal penetration, the couple must find a position that most favors them.

WHAT IS THE ORIGIN OF PLEASURE? The pleasure is caused by stimulation of the prostate. This is slightly above the anus. When there is penetration, the penis to put pressure on the wall of the rectum, this stimulates the back of the prostate. This. as shown in the figure is similar to a small hamburger. It is a point, which may cause a man to orgasm, and that only through the penetration can be achieved. CARE TO BE TAKEN BEFORE ANAL SEX:

1. Cleanliness. Bathe before the relationship can help make them more relaxed and at ease, creating a stimulating atmosphere of intimacy, in addition, the cleanliness provides increased security against contamination;

2. Nails. Keep nails clean and trimmed; Lubrication. Use lubricant gel, that prevents pain and injury;

3. Preservative. ALWAYS USE! The friction of the penis in the rectum can cause light scratches, and it facilitates the contamination by bacteria, causing serious illness;

4. Lubrificant. The lubricants are sold in shops and some pharmacies sexy. Some already contains anesthetic.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Medical ... And the training?

This time I speak of something that affects us all and the afflicted, to health. In this broad theme, I focus on me in our medical profession, about the matter raised in the "Love" that I saw yesterday on TV, with Júlio Machado Vaz Grabiela and Moita. Gabriela said it is a completely unacceptable that a health professional discuss the sexuality of their patients with a question like "have you girlfriend?". This short and simple question itself shows a bias and a (natural) to address and on the assumption that whoever is ahead of us is heterosexual ... Nothing more wrong, and then fully agree with the view of Gabriela ... To whom is gay and for some reason have difficulty in assuming that the worst that can happen is someone in whom he would rely, from a principle so discriminate ... Gabriela said still, that the fault is not only of health professionals, the training they receive in college, does not address how to how to address the professional a given topic, in this case sexuality with their patients and how should lead the dialogue ... Still fully agree! 

And yet about it, and by total coincidence, today (unfortunately) had to drive me to a health center of my desktop, due to intense pain in the back. I confess that I always have some fear, as I happen to most people in this country, the way will be met and who I will go out in the "raffle". There I was, and I in a little over 10 minutes was being served ... Tell you now as this consultation with Dr. Margarida Rodrigues: (U.S.) - Morning ... (SHE) - Good day! Sit ... How old are you? (U.S.) - I have 28 years ... (SHE) - Not included in this center why? (ME) - Although I am not signed up, and this is not my area of residence ... (SHE) - There is a family doctor? (ME) - No. .. I had but now I have! (SHE) - But you must get ... Where is placed? (ME) - I entered the village where I lived ... (SHE) - But look here, you must register and get a family doctor! (ME) - Yes .. (SHE) - What if complaint? (ME) - I have back pain ... (She begins to write immediately ...) (SHE)-But it is local or extends to the rest of the body? (ME) - is local ... (SHE) - Want to shot? (I was  with the question ...) (ME) - Excuse me? (SHE) - Want to shot? (ME) - I do not understand ... (SHE) - So, do not come here to get an injection for pain? (I could not disguise my  numb... I chapfallen ...) (EU) - I came here to learn what I have in the back ... (Answer pushing it a role in my direction ...) (SHE) - Ahhh. But here there is no analysis of the problem. You must do this in a family doctor ... Thank you and best, you got the recipe. (Watch for the recipe, and had four boxes of who knows what is there to go buy, and left) (EU) - Morning ... You hear many stories of these, but when we ourselves gives us to think ... Gabriela spoke to (and very well) lack of training in the approach of the patient regarding their sexuality ... Because this case was not personal or professional training (or at least the doctor did not apply at all) to receive me ... Could have staged at least some interest in my case, the feeler or watching my back ... But no, these are professionals we have, and unfortunately that is the idea that only a minority can not be included in this bag ... And I will receive with the story wrong, or have poor working conditions ... This case that presence today was purely and simply an "be spray is for the person who was sitting there ... And this is for me a matter of personality, good sense and education. I forgot (how to forget the majority of the Portuguese) that I have the right to be assisted, because taxes pay for this, and that although this is normal in our country we should never forget that this is not at all treatment for any patient deserved! So it should have left my indignation at this Yellow Book, but I do not remember .. Stay here to register! :)

PORTUGUESE GAY BARS IV - "FINALMENTE", Lisbon

This was the second gay bar I met ... A well known bar in Lisbon, because of their known and good shows to transform ... This is also, in my opinion, the only reason to take some pleasure in that bar ... It is obvious that most searches for other pleasures, this bar of Lisbon and close to Royal Prince ...

But well, starting with the beginning ... When entering, we immediately in a small hall, where the gate gave the password to use ... Turning the door giving access to the bar itself, and the first impression we get is that the bar is a little dark and very small ... This feeling extends itself throughout the night, it is not just a feeling, it is a reality! On the right corner is a little higher level which later will be the concerts ... Otherwise there is not much to say, only that from the two hours, anything less something more, starts to fill the house ... Fills, fills and fills ... And then there is beginning to another show, which lasts throughout the night, which is another factor in the success of the bar: the apalpões and engatanços, almost as a natural consequence of being everyone is well tight.

I do not advise this very bar, do not like ... Only shows of processors are really a good reason to go there! :))

Another trip ... A further tightening in the heart ...

Oh man, I like what I tell it so different ...

I am now without lying next to my beautiful ... Beyond the wall I have in my back, my father slept and my mother ... Understand?

However talk to more than anything in my messenger again and rebut the facts and feelings that cause we are not together tonight, and the truth is that there is no progress in this field.

But inside me there is something that changes, I feel you ... When you love someone, this "fight" between the mother and the beautiful, love these two as equal and so different, wanting and not wanting this, there is almost lead me crazy ... Today in the afternoon, while I and my mother were in the room, so close and alone (which will be rare in recent years), I felt what we hurt the heart: not able to be ourselves and talk and do what we like ... I do this almost all the time with my beautiful and with my friends, and now, with it, I can not do ... I share both with her the beautiful moments I have lived and what makes me to be very happy ... But I can not ...!

I am increasingly tired of this ... I think the fair is beautiful "away" to give rise to any family and it seems that every day, I a step towards a cliff that I oblige or to stop or skip ... 

GGGRRRRRRR .... Heard yesterday about this, in "Short Conversations" Women of SIC in an interview with the psychologist who is the same station a program together with José Machado Vaz and the unconditional fan I am, saying that she had chosen as their area of research led to the fact that homophobia ... Said that she did not understand, so have decided to deepen the theme, how could a thing so insignificant in the lives of people, or the sex of the person we love, create feelings so strange and incomprehensible ...

But well, it was just a situation that increasingly less and I repeat that increasingly leads me to think that my dream may never come to be held ...

But as hope is the last to die ....

Employment, again...

I return to speak in this important matter, for two reasons: There is a new survey on employment and discrimination that may come to us as gays take this blog in which I am grateful to leave your vote and yet still have a problem because in my job that I said a few days ago ...

I wonder when that started to feel confidence in our colleagues and they share some of its intimacy with us, or should not enter the same wavelength and open the game with respect to our sexual orientation? Because so much of the family conversation, I left three alternatives: 1 - Tell the truth, 2 - and 3 lying - Skip ... Obviously the answer is more natural because the default (and agree) nobody has anything to do with our intimate life, but believe me ask how you call my girlfriend is not in itself an intrusion into my life .. . But the truth is that this simple question me (us) to put the three alternatives mentioned that ...

Which to choose?

Having gay friends ...

Some time ago I commented here on my blog that I have healthy hetero friends and chat with those that may be more "healthy" than with gay friends or couples. I never had gay friends, as I think should happen to many people ... And so on! The fact of having "entered" in the gay world and currently have a stable relationship with my lovely, not meant an increase in my sphere of friends, in this particular case, I refer to gay friends. My beautiful for its part, the few who had lost with the passing of time. Maintain a single gay friend ... Comment a few days ago that, and we conclude that it would be a more healthy gay friends ... I guess not, but it does not cost much, or at least we think not so much freight, get out sites for gays with gays that straight out with friends. Is always that feeling that we are "forcing" (when this starts to applicant) the bar straight to our friend ...

But it now becomes complicated arrange gay friends ...

Thursday, June 4, 2009

MADRID by night!

To complete the posts dedicated to our trip to Madrid, leaving a final assessment of the gay night in Madrid ... 

It is clear that all days were the days and night out ... We were both curious to know the night of Chueca, and then on the first day, still trying to resist the curiosity try to be more there in the area of the Plaza Mayor, but the failure to find a clever site or simply by not resist the curiosity, and soon got the metro towards Chueca. To our disappointment, perhaps because it Monday, or perhaps because of the drizzle, the truth is that few people to wander through through the narrow streets of the district of Chueca. And had not planned to leave for Chueca, started to look a little slapdash places ... The following days were further visits to the bars of Chueca, but with some defined ideas! I now, in a summary form, an assessment to bars and restaurants we visited and that marked me most: 

Bazaar Bonito-restaurant, minimalist, in shades of black and white, with a super friendly environment, and a reasonable price, with reasonable food too; 

LA TORJE-A great place for a pleasant conversation, in a well decorated, quiet and very good atmosphere; 

LL SHOW BAR - We like and repeat ... Mainly by the relaxed atmosphere, the animation of travecas residents, the strippers who were emerging and being one of the only bars that I had someone by 11am; 

BLACK & WHITE - a first attempt, on the 2nd Monday, but left disappointed ... Back in the 5th Sunday, when the environment is even more appealing, blatantly showed us the dark side of prostitution, where several young people trying to align itself with several seniors who were there; 

STRONG - The bar with the largest dark room in Madrid ... With a sticky floor, spacious, dark but with a good sound, worth the experience to enter the labyrinths of the dark room, which to me personally, leave me a little nervous; 

EAGLE-The bar we visited more hard ... Sex live among customers who go into the bar ... Many kibitzer ... Interesting for knowledge of a world completely promiscuous. PS: I leave a note to the store "A DIFFERENT LIFE" with a wide variety of articles, books and "Recuerdos" GLBT.

A very interesting sign!


This sign that you show was seen by me and my beautiful in the neighborhood of Chueca in Madrid ... We are amazed by this sign, that suppose, not yet part of the new code of the road that has now come into force in Portugal ... :))

Spanish Capital :: MADRID

 As planned, there were 21 days towards the Spanish capital: MADRID. We went by car, and take 4h30m to say, in passing, it did very well. Apollo also reach the board was not difficult, with the help of the map to remove the www.maporama.com (I strongly recommend that site for collection of maps and routes). Get a lugarito a parking near the road (2? For 2 hours), and entered the pension ... As the site showed (http://www.aptmadrid.com/apolo.html), the pension is renewed, and still smelled the works ... No luxury, but with a price / location / quality reasonable. Then we went by the popo in a public park that had the underground 100m of the pension where we were charged 15 euros per day. And there we start our program of visits ... I followed the strengths and weaknesses and I think by pointing out: 

Strengths 

- The Royal Palace, impressive, especially for the Royal arm on display; 

- The "Guernica" by Picasso, explained in the Centro de Arte Reina Sofia; 

- The Royal Convent of barefoot, where the tour guide provided a very rich and interesting; 

  - The card meters "MetroBus, which for only 5euros gives us access to ten trips in the metro network of the city; 

- The CHUECA, one of the best known gay neighborhoods of Europe ... It was a great experience the nights we spent there (all), and the atmosphere very relaxed and liberal. 


WEAK POINTS 

- The foul odor, which will smell for almost the entire part; 

- Lack of hygiene, the "taverns" and many tourist attractions; 

- The total indifference and lack of effort for us, tourists; 

- The lack of spectacular attractions. 


In short, visiting Madrid was a good experience but not an unforgettable experience. Compared to Barcelona, and in my opinion, I think the most interesting and beautiful city of Barcelona. Pena does not have a CHUECA, which from our point of view (or were not gay) was perhaps the most positive of the trip.

Penis :: Zoom in

I hope this information serves to dissolve some doubts ... To assist and facilitate the reading, the picture is displayed points:

DESCRIPTION

As is known, often we feel shame or be a lack of education, but the truth is that he is known by many names: Pilas, pirocas, pirilaus, Pissis, mangalhos, marzápios, bricks, hammers, fuckers ...

CONSTITUTION

The penis, externally, consists, as shown in the figure, by: - foreskin, which is the skin that involves the tip of the penis, the glans - glans, which is the end (or pponta) of the penis; - brake, which holds the foreskin - Meatus, hole in the glans, which is the end urethra - urethra, which is the channel that runs from the bladder to the meat, which is expelled by the urine and sperm - Body of the penis, which begins where the ends to the base of the glans penis.

SIZE

When it comes to penis, which usually arouses curiosity in the first is the size ... It is often cause for laughter and joy, but when someone asked about the size (especially women) say it is normal that the size does not matter, but how it is used, the perspective of talking about sex. But it is usually with friends and porn films are made comparisons, but to remember that movies are movies and not always what we see is reality. Beyond the excitement, the hot water, the shower is to increase the size (erection), and by contrast, the cold makes it almost disappear (flaccid)! Ehehehe! Several studies have shown that most men have penis erection in between 13 and 17 cm in length, with the average around 15 cm.

ERECTION

The erection  problem is that they often do not know explain ... The penis when erect, becomes hard and achieves its larger size, and sometimes leaves us in complicated situations such as photo ... :) But as in fact an erection? Well, inside the penis is a tissue much like a sponge, sometimes, for various reasons, is filled with blood so that it tightens and increases in length and width.

Masturbation

"Punheta," by which name is best known for male masturbation, is without any doubt, in general, the first sexual ... My first, I am a little surprised, but then ... Well then, is to use and abuse! :)) Masturbation is basically to involve the penis in one or two hands and do the movements and will come. Most men have their first contact with masturbation since adolescence. It is a moment of discovery and change. There are many myths that curb the practice of masturbation, however there is no scientific evidence that masturbation can cause negative consequences from that practiced moderately. The ejaculation ejaculation coincides with the point where the man / woman reaches orgasm. Some people suffer from premature ejaculation, or ejaculation to happen very quickly, without checking, not coinciding with the partner's orgasm ... Ejaculate, or "come up" often unintentionally, especially when you sleep at night, most often in adolescence ... Are called wet dreams, very natural and should not be cause for shame.

Circumcision

The circumcision is a common operation, made the many men and that is to be removed from the skin of the foreskin that covers the glans of the penis, usually under local anesthesia in adults and children in general. Previously had an indication for hygiene and less fans in recent years and is currently almost exclusively of patients with phimosis.

AESTHETICS

The aesthetics in this case, is also linked to health ... I believe that many men, as I think or thought that the cutting / shaving the hair is not something that should be taken to change the look as normal and that could mean a loss of masculinity ... Something that raises questions is how to shear / cut the hair, and in this respect nothing easier than an ordinary sheet of shaving, and not believe it hurts! The difference between cutting / shaving pubic hair or not the ( also known as "pintelhos"), is in my view, between the person feel more clean and "light" and have a "scrub" that in addition to providing more sweating in the area becomes unsightly and can also lead to the partner is invaded by mouth hair ... Ehehhehe! And thinking and ultimately to serve the pubic hair?

Thursday, May 21, 2009

PORTUGUESE Gay Bars III - "LUX", Lisbon

I met L, is already some time in the company of my beautiful, who insisted me to take me there ... For him, the sophistication of the area and quality of music was an odd LUX in Lisbon! Obviously trusted the taste of it, and I was not disappointed. I am not a big fan of house music, but since the 1st floor down not stop 'shaking your helmet' until almost morning. As for the bar itself, so this post is certainly a place large, sophisticated, located along the Tagus, with three floors, each with its environment: In the 1st floor (floor at which the entry is made), a space all of it the dance floor, where house music with the best dj's give vent to his imagination, in 2nd floor, there is a calmer, with many puff's and with a huge bar, a space divided by movable walls and which are being planned images, where the balconies give this place very attractive, on the 3rd floor is the terrace, the ideal place to be in the summer with a unique view over the Tagus and Madragôa. As for the people there are, I think that besides being beautiful and nice, there is some "gatherings" created by chance (I say), I refer in particular to the high number of gays who met on the 1st floor some well known and popular. Without any doubt, this is the house that gave continuity to the success of Fragile (already referenced in the last post dedicated to bars / clubs), and that, at least for now, continues to receive attention from those who like to enjoy the night! Upcoming events: Concerts Señor Pelota + Joakim + Disorder (11-03-2005) James Miranda + Yen Sung (12-03-2005) Dance Damage + + Namosh Dexter (17-03-2005) Yen Sung + Leonaldo de Almeida + Pink Boy + Pitt Pull (18-03-2005) Rui Rui Vargas Murko + + + Zé Pedro Moura Pedro Ricciardi (19-03-2005) Dezperados & The Wild Animals + Zé Pedro Moura (24-03-2005) Here's an article public: Soon, the Lux has become "the" club of Lisbon. A huge warehouse, located at Avenida Infante D. Henry, the station of Santa Apolonia Lisbon, was transformed into the most cosmopolitan bar / club in the country. It is divided into three floors: the first track is to create environments that press dancing according to the most current musical trends, the second floor, surrounded by convenient open balconies overlooking the river, is a space-bar calmer, dançável with music but when the crowd and DJ line will, in the third floor is the terrace, ideal for summer nights and often animated by special events. The Lux is recognized by its modern decor and environment, sophisticated and "glamorous." Combines an almost cinematic universe (because the actor John Malkovitch is a partner) with huge screens, drawing it into a corner where chairs spread all different. This is also one of the marks of the house, which boasts of being almost a "museum" of living contemporary design. Cosmopolitanism and sophistication to the space environment is alien and that a partner is Manuel Reis, the gentleman who was 80 years for "moved" in the Bairro Alto to the creation of the club that at the time, was the "must" : The Fragile. Besides bar-disco, the Lux hosts various events. In the nights of Thursday there is usually a guest DJ or live music concerts. Luis Santos PUBLICO.PT

Skip is not always easy ...

I changed my company ... Now working in a company, I can tell you have a family environment, due to the small number of fellow workers ... It is natural (and this is already happening) that talk about the life of each, to bring people to each other ... But in my case (I think I could say "in our case), I am gay, these issues are not always easy ... The questions arise: "You live alone?", "When houses", "Get your girlfriend to dinner ...". When you can go missing and diverting the subject, but sometimes it is complicated ... And then, with so many omissions, began to think that our colleagues will begin to suspect, and any comment is that we (internally) called into question, as I heard this today: "Before you get the woman, and have pups. .., I already have!-Or you get a guy and adopt a child. " Is the comment was innocent and not more than a coincidence ...? I do not know ... I know that makes no sense terms that have this type of care with the language to say what not to, because we do not know how people will react in the salary paid to the end of the month ...

After all what they think?

Yesterday, I reviewed a great friend, who knew about my homosexuality by others ... Obviously tried to call you for some time to talk about it ... But as all telephone conversations, has not much depth to it ... Yesterday we had then the opportunity for a conversation on the day! It is natural that it came on my homosexuality, but to be honest I do not mind (and to taste) to talk about me! She then tried to explain to me what he felt or what they felt, to me personally yesterday. She lives very close to Évora, and obviously it is still there (and here) taboo ... Then told me that the curious to talk about it was one of the first things you came, that, having spoken with me on the phone and have noticed my state of grace. I was also very curious to see my beautiful, not by chance that I can track yesterday ... She told me that "loved to know him and think would be a tip of the jealousy that ...", replied" Why? " . She said it was not for evil, but that he turned to me ... I laugh! I explained that my beautiful, unfortunately, was not my first experience, and that when I met him I had already set! That's it, moreover, clearly spoke of the fact that I have found in it, and found the situation funny! :))

Change again ...

I am a person (and who knows me knows that), always seeking new challenges and behind and ideas ... It is my character, and about that little or nothing I can do, because when I by myself, my neurons have to go looking for something ... This time I changed jobs, not because I had been seeking, but because I tried ... What I find important in life is that we must never accommodate, looking for the realization of dreams, ideas and objectives. Sometimes people let themselves be carried away by society, and to this shape, often assuming that a person actually does not correspond to their true essence! And in love, we must also change? I think so! Change is good, change positions, change of place, change the way we look at the (a) our (a) beautiful (a), always with the same passion, although looking in a different way to maintain the flame of passion lit! Change, and it is for the better, then great!

"MAR ADENTRO", to think ... (and cry!)

Today I see this Spanish film, which, since I saw the first presentation, let me just curious ... For those who do not know this movie addresses the issue of euthanasia, more specifically, a man who after a dive poorly constructed, became quadriplegic eventually go to a bed, where he remained for 26 years. Arguing that "life is a right, not an obligation," fought for the right to a dignified death and legal ... And most do not count! Well, just know that for the first time and cried soluce (which gave a laugh together at the ridiculous situation ...), and I played with the movie ... Interpretations very good, a special makeup and a story that leaves no one indifferent, or was not the movie to be a huge success, being named the Oscar (which begin in a moment) for Best Foreign Film and Best Makeup. I believe that many people to think the matter more seriously and to relaunch the debate (always so controversial) about euthanasia! It is my suggestion to not miss this film! :)