Thursday, July 2, 2009

Medical ... And the training?

This time I speak of something that affects us all and the afflicted, to health. In this broad theme, I focus on me in our medical profession, about the matter raised in the "Love" that I saw yesterday on TV, with Júlio Machado Vaz Grabiela and Moita. Gabriela said it is a completely unacceptable that a health professional discuss the sexuality of their patients with a question like "have you girlfriend?". This short and simple question itself shows a bias and a (natural) to address and on the assumption that whoever is ahead of us is heterosexual ... Nothing more wrong, and then fully agree with the view of Gabriela ... To whom is gay and for some reason have difficulty in assuming that the worst that can happen is someone in whom he would rely, from a principle so discriminate ... Gabriela said still, that the fault is not only of health professionals, the training they receive in college, does not address how to how to address the professional a given topic, in this case sexuality with their patients and how should lead the dialogue ... Still fully agree! 

And yet about it, and by total coincidence, today (unfortunately) had to drive me to a health center of my desktop, due to intense pain in the back. I confess that I always have some fear, as I happen to most people in this country, the way will be met and who I will go out in the "raffle". There I was, and I in a little over 10 minutes was being served ... Tell you now as this consultation with Dr. Margarida Rodrigues: (U.S.) - Morning ... (SHE) - Good day! Sit ... How old are you? (U.S.) - I have 28 years ... (SHE) - Not included in this center why? (ME) - Although I am not signed up, and this is not my area of residence ... (SHE) - There is a family doctor? (ME) - No. .. I had but now I have! (SHE) - But you must get ... Where is placed? (ME) - I entered the village where I lived ... (SHE) - But look here, you must register and get a family doctor! (ME) - Yes .. (SHE) - What if complaint? (ME) - I have back pain ... (She begins to write immediately ...) (SHE)-But it is local or extends to the rest of the body? (ME) - is local ... (SHE) - Want to shot? (I was  with the question ...) (ME) - Excuse me? (SHE) - Want to shot? (ME) - I do not understand ... (SHE) - So, do not come here to get an injection for pain? (I could not disguise my  numb... I chapfallen ...) (EU) - I came here to learn what I have in the back ... (Answer pushing it a role in my direction ...) (SHE) - Ahhh. But here there is no analysis of the problem. You must do this in a family doctor ... Thank you and best, you got the recipe. (Watch for the recipe, and had four boxes of who knows what is there to go buy, and left) (EU) - Morning ... You hear many stories of these, but when we ourselves gives us to think ... Gabriela spoke to (and very well) lack of training in the approach of the patient regarding their sexuality ... Because this case was not personal or professional training (or at least the doctor did not apply at all) to receive me ... Could have staged at least some interest in my case, the feeler or watching my back ... But no, these are professionals we have, and unfortunately that is the idea that only a minority can not be included in this bag ... And I will receive with the story wrong, or have poor working conditions ... This case that presence today was purely and simply an "be spray is for the person who was sitting there ... And this is for me a matter of personality, good sense and education. I forgot (how to forget the majority of the Portuguese) that I have the right to be assisted, because taxes pay for this, and that although this is normal in our country we should never forget that this is not at all treatment for any patient deserved! So it should have left my indignation at this Yellow Book, but I do not remember .. Stay here to register! :)

PORTUGUESE GAY BARS IV - "FINALMENTE", Lisbon

This was the second gay bar I met ... A well known bar in Lisbon, because of their known and good shows to transform ... This is also, in my opinion, the only reason to take some pleasure in that bar ... It is obvious that most searches for other pleasures, this bar of Lisbon and close to Royal Prince ...

But well, starting with the beginning ... When entering, we immediately in a small hall, where the gate gave the password to use ... Turning the door giving access to the bar itself, and the first impression we get is that the bar is a little dark and very small ... This feeling extends itself throughout the night, it is not just a feeling, it is a reality! On the right corner is a little higher level which later will be the concerts ... Otherwise there is not much to say, only that from the two hours, anything less something more, starts to fill the house ... Fills, fills and fills ... And then there is beginning to another show, which lasts throughout the night, which is another factor in the success of the bar: the apalpões and engatanços, almost as a natural consequence of being everyone is well tight.

I do not advise this very bar, do not like ... Only shows of processors are really a good reason to go there! :))

Another trip ... A further tightening in the heart ...

Oh man, I like what I tell it so different ...

I am now without lying next to my beautiful ... Beyond the wall I have in my back, my father slept and my mother ... Understand?

However talk to more than anything in my messenger again and rebut the facts and feelings that cause we are not together tonight, and the truth is that there is no progress in this field.

But inside me there is something that changes, I feel you ... When you love someone, this "fight" between the mother and the beautiful, love these two as equal and so different, wanting and not wanting this, there is almost lead me crazy ... Today in the afternoon, while I and my mother were in the room, so close and alone (which will be rare in recent years), I felt what we hurt the heart: not able to be ourselves and talk and do what we like ... I do this almost all the time with my beautiful and with my friends, and now, with it, I can not do ... I share both with her the beautiful moments I have lived and what makes me to be very happy ... But I can not ...!

I am increasingly tired of this ... I think the fair is beautiful "away" to give rise to any family and it seems that every day, I a step towards a cliff that I oblige or to stop or skip ... 

GGGRRRRRRR .... Heard yesterday about this, in "Short Conversations" Women of SIC in an interview with the psychologist who is the same station a program together with José Machado Vaz and the unconditional fan I am, saying that she had chosen as their area of research led to the fact that homophobia ... Said that she did not understand, so have decided to deepen the theme, how could a thing so insignificant in the lives of people, or the sex of the person we love, create feelings so strange and incomprehensible ...

But well, it was just a situation that increasingly less and I repeat that increasingly leads me to think that my dream may never come to be held ...

But as hope is the last to die ....

Employment, again...

I return to speak in this important matter, for two reasons: There is a new survey on employment and discrimination that may come to us as gays take this blog in which I am grateful to leave your vote and yet still have a problem because in my job that I said a few days ago ...

I wonder when that started to feel confidence in our colleagues and they share some of its intimacy with us, or should not enter the same wavelength and open the game with respect to our sexual orientation? Because so much of the family conversation, I left three alternatives: 1 - Tell the truth, 2 - and 3 lying - Skip ... Obviously the answer is more natural because the default (and agree) nobody has anything to do with our intimate life, but believe me ask how you call my girlfriend is not in itself an intrusion into my life .. . But the truth is that this simple question me (us) to put the three alternatives mentioned that ...

Which to choose?

Having gay friends ...

Some time ago I commented here on my blog that I have healthy hetero friends and chat with those that may be more "healthy" than with gay friends or couples. I never had gay friends, as I think should happen to many people ... And so on! The fact of having "entered" in the gay world and currently have a stable relationship with my lovely, not meant an increase in my sphere of friends, in this particular case, I refer to gay friends. My beautiful for its part, the few who had lost with the passing of time. Maintain a single gay friend ... Comment a few days ago that, and we conclude that it would be a more healthy gay friends ... I guess not, but it does not cost much, or at least we think not so much freight, get out sites for gays with gays that straight out with friends. Is always that feeling that we are "forcing" (when this starts to applicant) the bar straight to our friend ...

But it now becomes complicated arrange gay friends ...