Having gay friends ...

Some time ago I commented here on my blog that I have healthy hetero friends and chat with those that may be more "healthy" than with gay friends or couples. I never had gay friends, as I think should happen to many people ... And so on! The fact of having "entered" in the gay world and currently have a stable relationship with my lovely, not meant an increase in my sphere of friends, in this particular case, I refer to gay friends. My beautiful for its part, the few who had lost with the passing of time. Maintain a single gay friend ... Comment a few days ago that, and we conclude that it would be a more healthy gay friends ... I guess not, but it does not cost much, or at least we think not so much freight, get out sites for gays with gays that straight out with friends. Is always that feeling that we are "forcing" (when this starts to applicant) the bar straight to our friend ...

But it now becomes complicated arrange gay friends ...

After all what they think?

Yesterday, I reviewed a great friend, who knew about my homosexuality by others ... Obviously tried to call you for some time to talk about it ... But as all telephone conversations, has not much depth to it ... Yesterday we had then the opportunity for a conversation on the day! It is natural that it came on my homosexuality, but to be honest I do not mind (and to taste) to talk about me! She then tried to explain to me what he felt or what they felt, to me personally yesterday. She lives very close to Évora, and obviously it is still there (and here) taboo ... Then told me that the curious to talk about it was one of the first things you came, that, having spoken with me on the phone and have noticed my state of grace. I was also very curious to see my beautiful, not by chance that I can track yesterday ... She told me that "loved to know him and think would be a tip of the jealousy that ...", replied" Why? " . She said it was not for evil, but that he turned to me ... I laugh! I explained that my beautiful, unfortunately, was not my first experience, and that when I met him I had already set! That's it, moreover, clearly spoke of the fact that I have found in it, and found the situation funny! :))

More gays is better!?

It is inevitable that it goes from mouth to mouth, and as reviewed and widely circulated on the internet here ... The alleged homosexuality of José Sócrates has given rise to several reactions ... I note today that both commentators and the media are beginning to address openly and frankly what it is today a reality, or the rumor about alleged homosexuality ... I think, and strengthen the idea that Portugal has recently had some excuses, good or bad, to speak more openly about homosexuality ... Even yesterday, a news, I say to a fishmonger Francisco Dishes "What is Pedro Santana Lopes against homosexuals?! He who speaks of what matters and who does not let anyone hurt the ...". It may seem ridiculous to mention that this comment, but I found it very interesting, coming from those who came and shows, I think, that it begins to few to be treated with natural ... But well, this article is to talk about something else ... Of the comments that appear in this and other blogs about homosexuals, which repeatedly refers to us, gay, suffered a mass hysteria, wanting and trying to find a gay in every corner ... I do not think at all that these comments are devoid of meaning ... I myself sometimes fall in the temptation to point out and comment on others, pointing them (in the right direction of course!) As being gay ... Why this temptation? I just think an explanation, we want to be more, to be increasingly common, and can increasingly be ourselves ... Obviously the fact that José Sócrates be gay or not will not be dominant in its action as Prime Minister, but I believe that like me, many gays, and no commitments made, look to him as a hope to be able to show the country that sexual orientation of each is the least interested, and that the value of people has nothing to do with it ...

"Who is he? - It's my boyfriend!"

The other day, one of the dinners with friends, was a friend and his boyfriend, who still did not know of my homosexuality ... Incidentally, this dinner, I was not pretty ... During the dinner, and at some point now that I do not remember the name of my beautiful Baila came to several times ... In this friendly, and naturally in the course of these conversations: "Who is _______?". Actually said to me ... The next moment the question was a moment of silence and all eyes are turned to my person ... I bet, though not confirmed, it asked all to yourself: "Is he going to say? And now?". I looked for it, and with a smile on the lips answered: "It's my boyfriend." Another moment of silence followed, and this time the eyes were fixed on that my friend ... She answered: "Oh yeah? Not know! What is it?". And all ready started to talk and dinner usually continued ... I have to admit that it is not easy, or at least is not natural, to give a cold response of these ... But I should be anyway ... Treat it with naturalness and relaxation that only helps to understand it all anyway! Do not believe?

I would like to try, but ...

I do not know if the same happens with other people, but since I took over as gay to the people who love the conversations about sex have become more frequent and more interesting ... I think perhaps this is due to two reasons: first, for I would be happy to talk about it and feel great lack of such conversations before I took; Second, the idea that others have that we gays we are one big crazy and only think of sex ... However I think that great things are well! But well, the reason this post is not talking about those reasons but the conversation itself ... Already more than once, that a heterosexual friend, make me some "complaints" about his sexual relationship with his partner ... Usually it is always the same, ie the wife is very reluctant to regard anal, and they would love to have this experience. But the opposite happens, ie, the man would also like to try a relationship anal ... But if the man is normal to ask your girlfriend to have anal a relationship, because the opposite is not vulgar, so I know ... Imagine the man, in the sexual act, ask the woman "Stick your finger at my ass ..", not complicated situation? What will she think? "He is gay ?!"... Indeed, already happened in conversation, I do not know how to request this kind of experience, but I think everything that passes through the opening between the couple on these matters, and shall refer to this experience as any other! Or is it okay ?!...

With friends ... at ease?

Lately, the last leaving at night that I made with my beautiful and straight friends, went to gay places ... The excuse to go to a gay place, in my view, is necessarily by being the only place where public can be comfortable with my beautiful ... But well, which always has to happen is that going with our straight friends, we should never feel sufficiently free to embrace or kiss on ... Weird no? After all they are there because we wanted to go there, supposed to be at ease ... I think this is due to the fact that we fear of "hurting" their sensitivity, which, and assume, it makes no sense ... Clearly it would because they feel we are well and wish them ... We have a couple hetero friend, that when we are together, ask us to feel completely at ease, since the fact that realizing that we are inhibited, the left a little annoyed ... But the truth is that we never completely at ease! Finally!

Going to the night, alone or accompanied?

I think the situation that you picture in this post, I should have spent more people, if it is not true even with everybody ... When we decide go out (me and my beautiful) almost always invite someone to make us company, heterosexual friends ... At the beginning he was not the issue but now the question always arises: "What kind of bar is it?". I understand, because I know q is not very attractive (at least for those who are alone) go to a site that I call a "mixed". But well see, the "mixed" does not have much, or have homosexual and heterosexual couples (in minority), and one or another girl on the loose. Call that a bar "mixed", left for me to make sense ... A bar "mixed", in my opinion, would be a bar with homosexuals, heteressoxuais, single, married, and seeing all dating, dancing, talking ... It is this environment that I feel more healthy ... It is this environment that I have not found ... Any suggestions?

What they say when we are not ...?

I bet that all people are asking many times, as will our friends / family when we are not present ... We gays, packaged with our sense of discrimination, we have a heightened interest in what they say ... Many will not care, but to me interested me yes! Obviously I am referring to whom I am close and that I supposedly supported and supports ... A weekend I went to the land, a friend told me that when joined grupinho who commented and said "Who will of man and woman ?!"... Do not take or took it badly, because that is the impression that society has of us, that a gay or lesbian couple is always a member of the couple who took the position of another man and a woman! I always try to pull the issue to clarify things, and explain that this is not rule, but it is notable that in some couples there for gay members of a more "bicharoca" and lesbians with an air more males. However this has some interest? I do not think at all! Then have some people who told me that sometimes, at work or with their families trying to pass the message that we are normal, we are not ET's, we are happy ... What I find interesting is that comment, and that clarify things if possible ... Speaking openly on the subject was always the best way to clarify any issue! No taboos! :)

Tell the parents: YES or NO? (Part 12)

(Continued) ... And so, my mother, began to unconsciously mentalizar this is my (our) new reality ... The calls begin by her "So how are you?" But soon after you try to amend what is said ".. You do not, you ..."... My father is not even anything like the slide of my mother, says she is "give consent to something that goes against what they think ..". She tries to apologize saying that it is only wrong because I used to be many times with my friends ... Ehehehe ... The silence continues on the subject, however I know of some conversations (penalty are very few) that my mother is having with some family on the subject ... But now comes a new ... The relationship of my parents is going through a phase less good, and immediately come the comments ... the father is not able to overcome, and will never accept the fact ... He is nervous ... Afraid that others will know ... It would be a shame. " I think the fact of knowing that you have a gay son, may be cause for shock and some turbulence, because we are talking about something that exterminates with many of the dreams that they (parents), learning, came wonder to me ... But will this be reason enough to ruin the relationship father / mother? Or is it a good excuse to divert attention? Or a more emotional blackmail of my father? I do not know ... Still seek the answer ...

Girls, we and & sex

Although little talked about sex in this blog, and after all sex is no shadow of doubt one of the key components for a healthy relationship from continuing ... I always thought that we men in general are more sexual beings that women ... The sex, positions, innovation, freedom, demand, the exploitation is much sought by us that they ... Venture to say that most women do not completely satisfy your partner! But strange, because it is actually a most unusual woman complains of not taking full advantage of the sexual act instead of man ... So as we are? We like them and claim that we are not capable? I do not know how, because the few relationships with women who had not reached that point, but it seems to me that men are afraid of is completely free with your partner ... They did it with the lovers, the whores, prostitutes, but with their women do not or are likely to ask it, or respect, or ashamed ... In many of these cases means that many men seek other men, as it is known that we in our hearts we are one "crazy Ganda" (over them) ... Some evidence and do not want something else and take, others do not want to become something else but will not take and thus deceiving their partner, and few are those who do not like and continue with their normal heterosexual relationship ... Never were your friends with some who say "suck your dick? What horror, I do not think I can do that!!!". But this kind of statement to get across a hot guy, because the oral sex practices that is perhaps most pleased to man ... Obviously I am speaking in general, in regulation, surely there will be exceptions that confirm this rule ... Even I at certain times, before I assume, thought I was just looking for men to find a woman that I never would satisfy the sexual level (no longer think it ...), and that the alternative would be to find the "Ganda crazy" ... I do not know if I did understand .. I hope so ...

Does anything change even ?!...

I do not know if already happened to you, but I from time to time arise me doubt in my mind about the words that (a) friend (a) to know that I was gay told me 'Dude, you keep for me be the same as you were before ...". I appreciate the sympathy and currently believe, because we believe it is anyway ... But then, over time, and more in relation to friends (and not so much with friends), by either attitude, real or created in our head, my head goes by that people were saying that my friend and I said that nothing would change in our relationship, after all no longer see me the same way ... And if so, how I see now? Imagine me at home dressed like a travesti, with his wrists broken, the screams made bicharoca crazy? Or that maybe, for years now, after all he went to throw to me? Or maybe imagine how it will be in bed in the room with another guy, as you can have pleasure ... I do not know what they think and even come to believe something, but I believe that is confusing to some people ... I in my case, immediately tried by my friends feel free to ask what they were to head ... I do not know ...