How far can and / or should go?

I always thought that in a relationship, when someone loves the other and the distrust or doubt about the sentiment makes sense ... I always thought that to truly love someone ... I think us gays, we know well, know how sex is important and we also know that hundreds go there looking for the goose with a drowning, with several, short, anyway ... I love my beautiful and they do not have the slightest of doubts ... Then my second thought, no I do not know or doubt that it is my feeling and I know it is also ... In theory everything is beautiful, but in practice things are not as clear ... Doubt no doubt of our mutual feelings, but know I can not stop suspicious ... Wonder why? Some things related to the past, and others, which are the result of society and the speed and ease with which things can progress ... My computer has a beautiful net .. I also have ... And both know that NET puts us if you want, in contact with who we want or we look for ... Chat, messenger, blogs, websites ... It is easy to take a touch and add ... And after that, it is there what can happen ... So I think the thought was that at least in practice is difficult to be applied ... I believe that many do not call into question the sense, but the truth is that as human beings, we have our weaknesses ... And you never know, if you go to lunch today, I will not by any chance stumble into someone ... Or if (a) as co-worker will not insinuate with me and pull me to the wall ... Controlling this type of situation is very complicated, and any type of control can become a stone in the shoe of a relationship, creating confusion and misunderstandings ... I am not saying that I will not controlling here and there my pretty, and I know that he must do the same ... But is this correct? Or if not too much is normal? I think we should rather suspicious, to not fully trust, or terms in mind that because they want to or not, on some day, things can change ... If we are not alert, anything can happen ... If we are, but also can happen, you will perhaps change the course of things ...

More gays is better!?

It is inevitable that it goes from mouth to mouth, and as reviewed and widely circulated on the internet here ... The alleged homosexuality of José Sócrates has given rise to several reactions ... I note today that both commentators and the media are beginning to address openly and frankly what it is today a reality, or the rumor about alleged homosexuality ... I think, and strengthen the idea that Portugal has recently had some excuses, good or bad, to speak more openly about homosexuality ... Even yesterday, a news, I say to a fishmonger Francisco Dishes "What is Pedro Santana Lopes against homosexuals?! He who speaks of what matters and who does not let anyone hurt the ...". It may seem ridiculous to mention that this comment, but I found it very interesting, coming from those who came and shows, I think, that it begins to few to be treated with natural ... But well, this article is to talk about something else ... Of the comments that appear in this and other blogs about homosexuals, which repeatedly refers to us, gay, suffered a mass hysteria, wanting and trying to find a gay in every corner ... I do not think at all that these comments are devoid of meaning ... I myself sometimes fall in the temptation to point out and comment on others, pointing them (in the right direction of course!) As being gay ... Why this temptation? I just think an explanation, we want to be more, to be increasingly common, and can increasingly be ourselves ... Obviously the fact that José Sócrates be gay or not will not be dominant in its action as Prime Minister, but I believe that like me, many gays, and no commitments made, look to him as a hope to be able to show the country that sexual orientation of each is the least interested, and that the value of people has nothing to do with it ...

I hope for a day ...

... Have in my hand the two people who love this life: my mother and my beautiful! I think many times that day, like so many times that day, and I so much strength for that day happens, that I can only believe that day will happen ... Sooner or later, happy to have both my hand ... Because there is no reason why it does not, or better, the reason that supposedly happened, will one day be there, eliminating the implacability of time ... There are things that lose meaning over time, and that the win ... I now only makes sense that day arrives ...

And because the love is beautiful ...

... And my beautiful is my love, I decided this weekend that past, present him with a surprise trip to Barcelona ... In time of anniversary, nothing better than traveling and out of the routine! And there was us ... How should imagine, a weekend to visit our city's most important neighbor Spain, is almost a marathon ... But still, with things well planned, was to enjoy and visit the most important sights of this city ... We were on the night of Saturday to visit two bars said Gay, the Martin's, who was to fly, and Arena ... This is a real mixed bar, at least in the sense that I think should be a mixed bar .. Good music, straight many, many gays and lesbians many, especially joy that is ultimately what matters most! I, for pity that even here there is a site of ...

I would like to try, but ...

I do not know if the same happens with other people, but since I took over as gay to the people who love the conversations about sex have become more frequent and more interesting ... I think perhaps this is due to two reasons: first, for I would be happy to talk about it and feel great lack of such conversations before I took; Second, the idea that others have that we gays we are one big crazy and only think of sex ... However I think that great things are well! But well, the reason this post is not talking about those reasons but the conversation itself ... Already more than once, that a heterosexual friend, make me some "complaints" about his sexual relationship with his partner ... Usually it is always the same, ie the wife is very reluctant to regard anal, and they would love to have this experience. But the opposite happens, ie, the man would also like to try a relationship anal ... But if the man is normal to ask your girlfriend to have anal a relationship, because the opposite is not vulgar, so I know ... Imagine the man, in the sexual act, ask the woman "Stick your finger at my ass ..", not complicated situation? What will she think? "He is gay ?!"... Indeed, already happened in conversation, I do not know how to request this kind of experience, but I think everything that passes through the opening between the couple on these matters, and shall refer to this experience as any other! Or is it okay ?!...

Going to the night, alone or accompanied?

I think the situation that you picture in this post, I should have spent more people, if it is not true even with everybody ... When we decide go out (me and my beautiful) almost always invite someone to make us company, heterosexual friends ... At the beginning he was not the issue but now the question always arises: "What kind of bar is it?". I understand, because I know q is not very attractive (at least for those who are alone) go to a site that I call a "mixed". But well see, the "mixed" does not have much, or have homosexual and heterosexual couples (in minority), and one or another girl on the loose. Call that a bar "mixed", left for me to make sense ... A bar "mixed", in my opinion, would be a bar with homosexuals, heteressoxuais, single, married, and seeing all dating, dancing, talking ... It is this environment that I feel more healthy ... It is this environment that I have not found ... Any suggestions?

Today i want to do questions...

Why can not all be happy? It will be unfortunate for many people and be jealous of someone who is happy? Why is the fact that I sleep with whoever is there is someone I have to discriminate? Do not support anyone imagine in the place where she wanted to be? Why is love and live with someone of the same sex can do so much confusion to someone who does not ourselves? Is it because they are afraid that the account of light, water, electricity increase? Why are there no longer friends to talk with a friend gay? Do they have fear of being eaten by wolves or bad because in fact have never been friends? Why not adopt a child, giving him love, affection, comfort and education? Does are better at Casa Pia? Why is at work, in most cases, we must try to maintain secrecy in relation to our sexual orientation? Does that we gays we become unable to work? Why is that a couple of gays can not marry and enjoy the full rights as a hetero couple? Are gays not pay taxes and do not work? Why are sons of bitches that discriminate in this country, bad deal, excluded, doubt their capabilities or ignore the gays in this country? Is it because they have less gray matter and we have no space in his brain to take on this reality, our reality? Come the answers ... :)

Holidays and Exchanges

For those who do not know, there is space on the Internet where you can leave a contact for a possible exchange of houses / flats to stay on holiday abroad ... Me and my beautiful that very soon we will travel, take the initiative to let our contact, and we are really interested in doing emerged an exchange ... Most couples are gay ... Soon after the first proposal and I got a nice little in doubt of what the next step to take ... Obviously we can not go to somebody's house without having minimal information ... But then how should we proceed? Well, in response asking photos ... But it is always the feeling and the uncertainty of what the intent of who is on the side of there ... Maybe it was a good way to meet new people and in accordance with guidelines to guide the destiny ... It was also a cheaper solution ... But, after thinking about, or at the time we would have to be to sell our house, we stand back and give the idea .. Someone has already done?

Parents tell: YES or NO? (Part 10)

It was then decided that it would have to tell my parents of the existence of the "beautiful", perhaps sooner than thought ... It was followed by a time so calm, with no major revelations ... I continued to tell friends and friends should understand that count, I continued to receive normal reactions (ie, accepted naturally), and the days, months went by ... However, in a beautiful the weekend came a complicated situation and predictable, my parents decided to come spend the weekend in my house ... The "beautiful" would be off this very weekend, and obviously did not want to waste that time without him ... It was then that I took another position, which gave a step further, denying the call of my godmother for a dinner with the whole family ... Obviously the invitation does not include the "beautiful" ... Questioned by my mother about my presence in that dinner, answered him: "Do not I go ... I will stay with the _____ you pretend does not exist. Everyone knows that I have someone by my side, and he deserves your respect. For that I will stay with him and I will not dine ..."... My mother was quiet, did not expect this reaction and replied: "... Okay, you know ... And there can always be at your house?", It said "Sure!". She continued: "Okay, then stayed in your house, but tell me something, the _______ will be there ?"... Of course I like answering something like "Yes, of course, I will submit it to you ...!", but unfortunately things are not so, and then answered" No, it will be ... I do not want you forcing him to know, just want the respect and know that I have someone .. ". I think at that moment she was more relieved, and continued saying "Okay, now there is only one more thing, your father does not want to sleep in your room, sleep in the office, you can be?". How should imagine I was surprised by this attitude, but the least of evil, that I was equal me sleep in a place or the other, but I think that the thinking of my father when looking at my bed ... Then came the day dinner (Saturday), and I had already decided what they would do ... (Continued)

Love changes people ...

Today is the day of Easter and here I am to write an article, with a beautiful day out there and with so many things to do outside those four walls ... But the truth is that this year, and perhaps for the first time in my life I decided to stay away from celebrations, the friends and family to stay with the person I love ... Some of you think: "There is more than the requirement ...", as if the fact of loving someone forces us to something ... But no, being gay limits some things in our lives, at least temporarily ... At this time I decided to tell family he was gay, and more recently, he had a "beautiful" only mine, on that day, also made a commitment to myself to leave the background for some things that I thought until then do not change ever, as For example, for being with friends and family on special occasions (like Easter ...) was always in the forefront, not only because they like but also because sometimes it was difficult to justify my absence ... And so today, the first time I am here alone because my beautiful had to go to work ... But sleep late and boyfriends (lunch break) and we have lunch by the sea ... Anyway nothing special but it becomes evident to me because it is a different side that I did not know ... Love gives us back the head, more than I ever imagined ... There are values that we should not abandon such as the love of family and by our true friends, and they hope never to lose ... The Love for "beautiful" is all this love that I feel the other person in a meeting ... Being with him I am well myself, and being good to myself I am well with others ... Not hard to understand? I think it's the love ...

Love or need? ...

There are already some time ago, someone my friend told me about her boyfriend: "Sometimes I have doubts, that if he loves me or if he needs from me ...". At the time gave no great importance to the issue, but then, and reflection, also has really happened to me to have this question (though not called this way) and I believe also that many people have thought the same ... When we have someone on our side that one or other reason (no matter ...) is more fragile, less secure, more dependent and therefore is "glue" to us as if we needed to breathe, let us fine with us and even with our ego up there, but there is the other side of the coin, which is that we think that maybe who's on our side, sometimes confuse the need to have cuffs at his side with the person you love is at your side ... Do not believe? ...

SOLUTION: surrogate motherhood! It is?!...

Well, when comment with my friends and they asked us if we ever have a son, obviously my answer is "YES!". However, to take me as gay and start to the current relationship was dreams that I had to close in my head ... I say "terminated" because you never know the morrow, and not enjeitado the possibility of one day going to have a child ... Some of my friends say "I thought one of bellied rental ?"... Of course, already thought, it is clear that I - who always wanted to have a child - already thought about all the possibilities, and one of them was this ... But then, and reflecting on it, I think the idea (in addition to much controversy) very difficult and morally very hard to accept ... It seems that abroad there are many who are "offers" for this type of service, but I am not going with that in my mind...

ADOPTION

Yet here this a controversial issue ... Want or do not want to adopt a child by a gay couple, is still not well seen by the majority of its population ... I ask myself, why? It is true that raises issues of ethical and moral, and even educational ... But in essence what we should import all the focus is on the child and that seek to have a home, someone who gives her care, love, to tell stories, that the fondling, which gives her a normal life ... I'm right or wrong? Why look for the least important in these cases and leave the bulk of next? ...